I told you how TV1’s SUNDAY programme has been following our IVF journey…. We agreed to do the doco because we hoped if we had a baby it would be an incredible gift to have the conception and birth documented. Of course we were also prepared that if the IVF did not work out that we would have a smaller story with a not very happy ending. Unfortunately, as you probably know, the latter happened. And the doco will be on this coming Sunday night. (30th May). SUNDAY on TV1 at 7.30pm.
There are two previews online, here’s the first one:
There are two previews online, here’s the first one:
And here’s the second one:
http://tvnz.co.nz/sunday-news/dom-and-jj-s-ivf-battle-1-35-video-3564702
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will be watching it for sure as have had my own infertility experience!
saw Dom on Close Up, the dad in Christchurch made a dick of himself!!!
I will watch with my tissues…
Thankyou so much for opening your lives up to us all.
Arohanui
wolfpackgirl10 (Lisa)
Hi guys
Thoughts still with you often. Still gutted for you that it didn’t work for but unfortunatly yours is a story that the wider public often don’t know about – repeated treatment cycles that don’t work – good news stories are widely publicised i.e. one go at IVF and a positive outcome.
As I have previously mentioned, you are doing such a wonderful thing for the wider community struggling to have a family and to put some real perspective on the struggle to the general public.
Hope that you are coping ok. No doubt you are still have your moments.
Thanks for sharing your journey with us, it gives us a lot of strength to know we are not alone
Take care
Hi there, just wanted to thank you so much for being so brave and allowing access to such an initmate part of your lives. Also how sorry I am that this attempt was not as hoped. I have followed your blog with much personal interest having experienced many losses myself and I will be watching your story on Sunday night. As it happens Monday is the day my husband and I embark on our first IVF journey – your story has really helped me in preparing and I cannot thankyou enough. I wish you both all the very best in your future decisions. xxx
I wish u the best of luck and hope our doco doesn’t make u too nervous!!
god i will be going out and buying a big box of tissues for sunday, hope it doesnt upset you too much, i start my 3rd ivf cycle on monday, am nervous but like your line about keeping your eye on the prize x
Jay-Jay I have just finished watching the documentary. Yes there were more than a few tears from me, but what a wonderful story you shared.
You are such an admirational person.
Kia Kaha
Ang
we have just watched your doco with our family . you guys are so brave and we thank you for sharing with us . you made us have tears in our eyes , and we just want to say again that you are both an amazing couple who inspire us to continue our own ivf battle. we are just doing injections now for our 4th transfer on our first cycle. all the people you showed on the doco are people we have had dealings with at fertility plus , what a great team they are! thank you again to you both and take care .xx
I’ve just watched the Sunday programme with my family. Hubby and I are facing the prospect of IVF soon, so it was really good to get an honest look at what can happen. Thanks so much for sharing with the world, you’ve both very brave!
P.S. Here’s my story: http://kaitake.blogspot.com/2010/05/watching-ivf-show-with-family.html
Hi,
My husband and I watched Sunday tonight! My Mum and Dad rang to tell us an IVF docco was on! Thank you for sharing your experiences so publicly. We are currently on the IVF waiting list, you’ve given us a much needed reality check and snapshot into what is ahead of us.
I saw you using this blog on TV so have come on the internet to find you….along the way I ended up on The Edge website also, so left a wee message there too.
Best of luck and keep taking care of one another! I look forward to reading more about your journey.
Jay-Jay & Dom,
Thank you for sharing your deeply personal & emotional story with us on Sunday. My husband and I have also been through IVF and were feeling your pain & anguish. It is such a tough thing to go through, let alone 4 times and we truly admire your strength & courage. Your story will help so many others going through similar experiences. Stay positive and we wish you all the very best for your dream coming true.
Hi there
Very brave of you to do that on TV. Wow. I work in IVF in Oz and have been through IVF myself. Have a few thoughts on things that can help based on watching other people and being through it myself. No magic dust sadly, but if you ever want an email conversation you can email me. Probably won’t tell you anything you don’t know, but you never know…
Good luck!
Thanks Sharyn, I’d love to hear your ideas
Hi again
Can’t help too much, but here are a couple of things to consider if you haven’t already. A change in the protocol used to stimulate your ovaries – saying that I have no idea what you have already tried. We have seen that sometimes a different drug, or way of using it can have the outcome of better quality embryos. Something to chat with your doctor about if they haven’t already tried that. Another thing to consider is acupuncture – it is a little bit controversial as some studies have shown no improvement and some have shown some – it was recommended to me, and I used it and had a good outcome. Of course, the embryo has to be capable of being a baby. Most people don’t realise that most embryos will never be babies – so you have to get the right one, and acupuncture probably just improves the chance of implantation, but only with those embryos. By acupuncture I mean within about 24 hours either side of the embryo transfer, and if you did consider this, make sure you go to someone who has done this before. Dom could also consider acupuncture for the 3 months prior to egg collection – but this really is not scientifically proven to help – there is one study that shows maybe a slight improvement, and that was enough for me to get hubby to do it. And of course there is a bit in the literature about the use of antioxidants improving DNA damage in sperm, and the product Menevit has been manufactured to help with that – once again, no sound scientific evidence that it definitely helps, but not that expensive compared to the cost of IVF and certainly won’t have a negative effect.
Sounds great that you are having a holiday – can’t hurt to do something nice for yourselves. Sorry to hear you have had some negative comments, some people out there just live to go in for the kill when people are at their most vunerable. You guys did a good thing putting yourselves out there, I wouldn’t be brave enough to do that. The only other thing I would like to say is to recommend good counselling with an IVF counsellor to discuss your options as you progress, and to give anyone the finger who suggests that “some people just aren’t supposed to have children” or “its gods way” or other such crap comments, and one from me too! You are just as deserving as anyone else out there. Take care.
Hi JJ & Dom
After watching your Doco tonight, what a wonderful couple you are to have done this for all of us guys struggling out there with the IVF rollercoaster, its not easy.
Like you, I don’t seem to have a sticky Uterus!!!Just endured a third attempt unsuccessfully so I can relate to what you going through. There are many options out there and it can get quite confusing but never give up hope.
And thankyou for encouraging me to join this group as I hadn’t in the past!
Especially when you see some of the chat groups and the phrases they use!!! Like BFF,TER,TD confusing a language of their own!!! Take Care and Best Wishes for the Future.
Guys,
You did a really brave and selfless act by opening up your journey to the public.
My wife and I went through 4 cycles before we struck gold with twins and two more on ice. I’ll never forget how hard those times we’re while waiting for results yet we always bounced back and gave it another go. First couple of attempts we let others know but the last couple we tried to keep quiet which is hard if people don’t know what your going through and say all the wrong things. In the end, lowering stress, taking a break in the tropics, accupuncture for the wife and “colorado protocol” for the IVF was what finally worked for us. I wish you both all the best, you really deserve a great result in the end. Stick with it!
Hi Dom & JJ
I watched the documentary tonight and felt your pain. You both seem like a wonderful couple whose fight for a baby is truly deserved. I know that life can be unfair, but never give up – you still have your age. I have faith that some way some how you’ll be blessed.
Sometimes its so hard to find words to express how you feel. Miscarriage and infertility is one of life’s cruelest jokes when any OTHER bunny is popping out babies and do love them the way you would if given the opportunity.
Miracles do happen and my hubby and I have an angel we know (our miscarried baby) and a beautiful 14 year old now GINGA (who had an awesome day on Friday getting cuddles from the girls all day- thanks for that DOM!) who is the light of our lives. Not a day goes past that I don’t count my blessing that I was given the chance to carry my son -allbeit a hell of a pregnancy, the chance of miscarriage all the way through (I have lupus). So we only have one. and sometimes only one is needed to fill a heart.
Blessings to you both. Courage comes in many forms. Your story is not finished yet…Love Hugo’s Mum…
oh god jay jay and dom waaaaaaaahhhhhhh. all i did was cry, even in the add breaks, you are both amazing people xx
Guys – I am so sorry this didn’t work out for you. I have been following your story for the last couple of years (when you first started talking about it on Radiochick) and just feel so sad that it hasnt worked out for you this time. Life just isn’t fair sometimes and you need to remember that its ok to feel a little bitter and twisted about it for a while. You will be amazing parents to whatever children life eventually gives you – whether they be your own or a lucky child that joins your family by adoption. Kia Kaha – stay strong and take care of each other.
Jay Jay and Dom
Thank you both so so much, watched Sunday last night and I am just so thankful to you both for bringing ivf into the public eye and what it REALLY entails; no one unless they have had to have ivf can know the roller coaster and the pain if it doesn’t work but now people can start to understand the process.
We are so thankful to you both from the bottom of our hearts. We have recently had a negative result from our second public cycle and wont be going on as financially its not an option so are facing life childless, which in our late 20s is really tough right now.
Once again we cannot say thank you enough and good luck in where ever your journey takes you both xo
Arohanui xo
Hi Guys,
Thanks so much for sharing your journey with us last night.
My husband and I are doing our first round of IVF in August, and we are a little nervous, but excited all at once.
We made our parents watch Sunday last night just so they might get a feeling of what we will be going through during that time.
My thoughts are with you both.
You are wonderful people and you deserve the best.
Jay & Dan
Good luck! Thank you for the feedback. This is why we chose to tell our story so we can offer some sort of comfort for people like you. xx
Thanks so much for sharing!! After 4 miscarriages we’re on the waiting list for IVF and watching your story has helped prepare us for what lies ahead.
Wishing you guys all the best – hold onto the hope.
Hi JJ and Dom
You were very brave to have opened up your experience of IVF treatment to the country. I don’t normally see tears well up in my husband’s eyes and they did. We are about to embark on our second attempt and I am really nervous. After our first treatment they couldn’t put back a fresh embryo so they froze them all. After 3 thawed replacements we had no success. Its such a frustrating journey and everday I wish that I could just have a baby without this IVF process. But life goes on and at least you do have a little one around. All the best with the next phase of your lives.
Hi Jay Jay and Dom.. How are you doing?
I was thinking of you as I got the news that my 2nd IVF transfer was unsuccessful yesterday…. I think I was more gutted than the first time actually. Im sure it had worked…. Just wanted to say I hope you had a lovely holiday and are ready to go ahead again? Im having a month off, and then our last frozen… maybe lucky last and 3rd time lucky as they say. Thank you for this website and for all you have shared, we as chicks are doing all we can to make this happen… and we hope one day it will.. .its not over yet! All the best to you guys. Stay strong and its nice to know that we have each other and are not alone. Michelle
Sorry to hear your bad news. I hope your next attempt is better. I am still undecided about the next round.