This two week wait is SO BORING!! And it drags… I still have 5 days to go til my pregnancy test. I’m nervous though. What if the embryos didn’t stick? What if I lose them in the next five days? What if I lose them fullstop? Everytime I go to the toilet I’m nervous to look. So far I am relieved to have seen no sign of miscarriage. But I wonder if there are any signs of pregnancy? I had a sore boob for two days, but it wasn’t THAT sore. I have had a headache all week and it has hurt a lot. I have been hungrier than usual. Today I had a wave of nausea. Am I imagining these things? Am I wanting them to happen? Are they nothing unusual? I just want a sign!
I’ve been going over the possible results in my head. If it’s negative, I’ll be utterly and completely devastated. Unconsolable. Will I need to take time off work? If it’s a positive result, I won’t want to get too excited because I’ve had that news before….and then I miscarried. This is all too much! I have come this far and I really don’t want to go through this ever again. Also, I’m not getting any younger. This has to happen now or it may never happen.
Counting down the days…..
I’ve been going over the possible results in my head. If it’s negative, I’ll be utterly and completely devastated. Unconsolable. Will I need to take time off work? If it’s a positive result, I won’t want to get too excited because I’ve had that news before….and then I miscarried. This is all too much! I have come this far and I really don’t want to go through this ever again. Also, I’m not getting any younger. This has to happen now or it may never happen.
Counting down the days…..
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I have been wishing and hoping and crossing all possible appendages since you were implanted. If positive energy counts for anything, you guys have it in spades.
Can’t wait to hear the good news.
Ali xoxo
Hey JJ & Dom,
Just wanted to send you a word of encouragement. I think it’s really really brave of you to share this stuff and I know it can’t be easy. We are currently on the waitlist for IVF and it’s super helpful reading your posts, even the scary bits!
I’ll be hoping and praying for you guys in the next few days.
Sarah x
The waiting is just the worst isn’t it! What’s worse I wonder… waiting to see if you have embryo’s that have survived or waiting for the pregnancy test?
Don’t you just wish it could be simple like it is for so many other people who try to get pregnant.
So this rollercoaster… I guess you just have to ride it out and keep remembering about that level head you are trying to maintain.
You’re not alone in what you’re going through. We’ve have had some initially good and then very bad outcomes with IVF, and onto our 2nd round now. Day 12 of the buserelin injections today, so a bit all over the place emotionally. Might be in your shoes too in a few weeks (if all goes well)…
Thoughts with you x
I find out Thursday – like you every symptom under the sun but then again maybe not?? Does my head in …… Good luck! Had three friends today say they were pregers again – was in a shit of a mood all day!
Take care & good luck x
I have everything crossed for you!!! The 2 week wait does go forever and then you almost feel like you dont want to know too coz no news is better than news if its not good news and if theres no news then you dont have to cope with what the news is haha sounds so stupid but I remember feeling exactly like that, just got to think positively! My cousin is big into visualisation and I was like hmm that sounds so silly but hey we got our miracle out of it so its worth a try right! She told me to visualise the pregnancy holding that little baby for the first time all those things anything is worth a shot! Plus it helps keep you positive, if worst case scenario it doesnt work you are going to be devistated heart broken anyway so doesnt matter how positive you are coz you have nothing to lose. Just remember if it doesnt work out there is always other options… surrogacy, adoption. Surrogacy you would still be able to have a genetic child… dont give up! Will be sending millions of positive thoughts your way. 2 weeks seems like forever right now just enjoy each day in ignorant bliss
xxx
Isn’t it maddening having to wait! Like you we have another 5 days before we find out and it feels like time is going very slowly. Try and keep positive…..
I think it is unbelievably kind and generous of you to be sharing your experience with everyone especially given that at this stage in the journey it must be tempting to want some privacy. It is so reassuring to relate to the same emotions and turmoil that you have been so open and candid about. It really does mess with your head (and your relationship at times) and people don’t always know how to offer support so resources such as your blog are such a huge help. I think any person and couple who has to go through infertility is so unbelievably strong. I wish you and Dom all the best and hope you get the beautiful baby you deserve.
Thank you so much Lee.
Hey Jay-Jay,
I have been wishing you and Dom all the best – all fingers and toes are crossed for you. Is your test on Friday or Saturday? Hope the next five days fly.
xx
My test is Thursday
I just want to wish you all the very best of luck.
We have just started counselling and I am already struggling with the whole thing so I think you are amazing.
I would like to thank you for sharing your story because I have LOVED reading all about your IVF from day 1 through you website – it has really helped me come to terms with alot of stuff.
Best of luck and heres hoping for a ‘positive’ outcome!!!
Hi rebecca. Good on you for going to the counselling. It takes a lot of courage to do that, and you will get through this process a lot easier because of it. It is a hard road, there’s no denying that, but I wish u the very best of luck.
Good luck! I cant even imagine how hard this must be for you guys. Sending positive thoughts your way!
We all feel for you – I was unsure whether to text saying ‘yay one week down’ and then when its sent wishing I hadn’t cause I don’t want you to upset you. Jay Jay all I can say is no one deserves this more than you and Dom. And if you both have next week off I think its understandable. Either you will be celebrating or you will be doing the other and I sincerely hope its the celebrating. You are definitely not old yet …it’s just the not knowing thats getting to you…
Jay Jay and Dom I feel you! I hady embryos transferred last Thursday and feels like months and it’s only Monday! You analyse every physical twinge…is it good, is it bad, is this a sign! This is fifth round for me and we’ve tried everything new. Have gone for a short cycle atagonist round (Soooo much better than previous four long cycle in lots of ways), have been doing acupuncture twice a week and doing something called the Colorado Protocol which is for people who’s immune system tends to be overloaded and possibly rejects the embryos. At the end of the day I just need to know that I’ve given it every chance I possibly could. Stay positive, try and keep as busy (mind rather than body of course) as can and surround yourself with laughter and love. You are very brave people to have this journey documented for the world to see and share the reality of this journey with people. Understanding helps share the load I think. It’s such a personal thing to share and I wish from my heart to yours that this is your turn. It’s a long road but in this journey it really is the destination that counts. I’ve had miscarriages from IVF so I know what a rollercoaster of emotions you’re going through! I have Everything crossed for all of us who are travelling this road together. Sending happy vibes, positive thoughts and smiles.
Thanks Lisa. I wish u the best of luck too! If this works, I’ll need some baby buddies!!!
Hi Lisa, I have been reading through past comments and whilst there are plenty of similar and stories to mine, I was reading yours and though that could be me! I too had embryos transferred on Friday 7th May, which was mine and my husband’s 6th attempt at IVF. I have too suffered miscarriges in the past (one after 9 weeks), so I understand how disappointed and upset you can feel. We had good news 10 days after the transfer, when it was confirmed I am pregnant. I was over the moon, although there’s always a little feeling in the back of my mind telling me it’s not going to last and it will be another miscarriage. the thing is, I don’t know what I’m going to do if this pregnancy does result in another miscarriage. I’m not sure that I can go through this long process of IVF again, and my husband has said he definitely doesn’t want to try again. The thing is, I’m 42 and my husband is 39, so I know our time is running out. Hubby would like to adopt a baby and whilst I would love to bring up another child, I can’t help feeling that it’s not the same as having my own flesh and blood. Anyway, hopefully this pregnancy will go full term and I won’t have to make this decision. I hope you have had good news following your embryo transfer. I have my fingers (and toes) crossed for you.
All the best, Kristin
Dear Jay Jay,
So we just found out that this round of ICSI didn’t work for us and I am totally devastated- So I am now sending all that I have left for you guys and hoping like crazy that this works for you guys- you are incredible for sharing this journey and I so hope that this little embryo sticks and behaves for you. Will be thinking about you this week and on Thursday xxx
Hey Jay-Jay and Dom,
Wishing you all the best of luck for a positive outcome with your upcoming test.
I have my ‘harvesting’ tomorrow so am trying to keep my mind occupied while waiting – it is so hard stopping your mind drifting!! We are on our third cycle, the last two of which have been the short cycles – I think becuase of too many eggs and not enough quality.
All good vibes coming your way for two fantastic people who deserve a happy and healthy bundle of joy xx
Hi Amy,
I am having my egg collection tomo as well, good luck to us both
only got 2 eggs my first round of ivf, so hoping to have more this time.
Best of luck to JJ and Dom
Hey Tina – all the best for a successful day tomorrow
Hope it is a lucky day for both of us. Fingers crossed.
Just wanted to wish you both the best of luck for a great out come
I probably shouldn’t say this but when I was in your shoes ….. I did an early pg test! Naughty I know but I just couldn’t resist!
I’m pretty sure things will work out for you! I can just tell.
Big hugs.
I think you just have to take one day at a time. The next few days will be the worst. My husband kept telling me there was nothing I could do and that we couldn’t really control the outcome – which is kind of true, but still hard. If only this little cell inside you knew what it does to a ‘mothers’ head – some people dont know how good they have it!
I am nervous for you! But sending lots of positive vibes. Whatever the result, you need a holiday!
Just wanted to say best of luck Jay Jay and Dom
I’ll be in the 2 week wait in a few days. I’ve tried to relax more this month and make sure I have things to do to take my mind off thinking about it 24/7.
I’ve had 2 miscarriages in the last 6 months so know how you feel. When I do get pregnant I will be extremely happy but won’t stop worrying until I see a healthy baby.
It’s so nice of you to share your story with the public. It really helps and lets us know we are not alone
Sprinkles of baby dust
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to cope with your best friend telling you she is pregnant one day before your final blood test. Could her timing be any worse!!!!!
Am I allowed to feel angry?
Blood test was yesterday. I still can’t quite believe it was negative!
We are completely devastated.
Hopefully your results are better, prove to us this does actually work!
Oh Anna … gosh that is so hard. Yes – you are allowed to feel angry – and sad. But then you need to get over it and feel happy for your friend. I have a feeling you will be too excited with you own news to be angry though ……
It can seem like the world is conspiring against you when you find out a friend is pregnant the day you’ve got your period or a negative test but you’ve got to keep rational and know the universe isn’t so cruel. You’re absolutely allowed to be angry. I think it’s important to acknowledge and accept it (and if possible express it in the privacy of your own home if that helps). I always try to look at the big picture and think I’d want someone to be happy for me if I had something amazing happen in my life even if they were struggling to get that very thing whether it was a home, a husband or a baby if that makes sense?
Are you kidding me? Your friend is a tool! How could she be so insenstive and let it all be about her! Clearly she has no idea what us IVF mummy-wanna-be’s go through. I would give her a chinese burn next time you see her!
I have had some really dumb things said to me over the years and maybe it is that people have NO idea.
I am really sorry your result – wine and really naughty food may help!
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Hi JJ, I recently watched the Secret – Cliche-ish I know – but I have been pushing out heaps of positive feelings and thoughts about hearing you talk about being pregnant on air and posting pics up on Radiochick of a growing belly and sharing your good news with us… I am really hoping you get this as i will need to start going through the same progress (PGD IVF) so I really hope your dreams come true as I have the same dream and journey I am about to embark on… Its hard to hear take one day at a time and think positive, it sounds like you have a good support partner in Dom so please know that we are all thinking of you and wishing you the very best of luck..
Thanks Emma and best of luck for your journey too. xx
Hi JJ,
I am thinking fertile thoughts for you! I know how hard the waiting is – and I know the pain of negative blood tests. I am past the point of trying for kids now but I sincerely hope that you and Dom have your wish for a baby come true! Take care of yourselves
xx
Anna – I’m sorry for your results *hugs* I would be so pissed at my friend if they did that to me – yes you have every right to be angry – sometimes people are soo insensitive!!
I had 3 years of fertility treatment and it seemed that everyone we knew just kept popping out kids with no trouble at all – life’s really not fair sometimes.
Hi guys
Just came across your blog. We have been through 4 failed attempts of ICSI/IVF and were about to go for round # five with an egg donor when we were lucky enough to adopt our son (hence IVF on hold for the mean time). You mentioned you had offers of sperm donors, I know from experience this can take a bit to get your head around but there are always options out there for you to get the family you so want and deserve. Good luck with what ever options you choose. I know the hell roller coaster you are on having been there done that.
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